As a black geek I was blessed and fortunate enough to grow up around a lot of black geeks. Hell, my dad (R.I.H.) introduced me to all of this. My mom grew up with basic awareness of a lot of super heroes and comics, but she was only into it because of my dad after they got married. I’m married to a woman who didn’t know who the entire f**k Dr. Strange was before we got together, but now she’s trying to figure out how she’s going to make it to next year to find out how the heroes in “Infinity War” are going to deal with Thanos. I said all of that to say black love exists for black geeks who date black non-geeks. Due to my own personal experiences I just couldn’t wrap my head around black geeks still catching some roast over what they love in 2018. So I started asking people to tell me about their experiences.
"The results were certainly interesting. Check these out:
“From my experience, I can say that I have had maybe 3 women that have been open to the world of anime and gaming. Ones that I’ve tried to open to it seem interested at first but only because they think it’s one of those things that change after we date for so long. Like I won’t be as into it if she occupies my time. Not going to lie, the past few years my interest in manga and anime has grown tremendously and it’s as though because I lift weights I can’t be into that stuff. I’m into "Harry Potter" and even trading cards, and it seems to be a child’s thing but I’m coming from a place of where it’s a lifestyle. It’s not some random hobby I picked up on the weekends. I have websites I check for new episodes of anime, I get updates for Comic-Con, and I am thinking about joining a LARP group. So it’s like the more I grow into that it’s not a conversation I can always bring up for fear that I’ll be roasted over it. We (black geeks) see a lot of shame and jokes made when stuff like Skyrim and Kingdom Hearts come up. Yeah we’d rather play PC games than get drunk for a night or go listen to jazz music. When I think of ridicule for being a black geeks, one story in particular comes to mind. I have a kilt I wear for the Highland Games. I wore it for Halloween with my Skyrim mask and off-top I got roasted when I showed up at the party. I know that if I would’ve worn something different or recognizable, I wouldn’t have gotten roasted that way. I was specifically because of what I wore that I got the ridicule. And I can take a joke, but these came off as something deeper than just friendly jokes. It just is what it is.”- Ced
That’s pretty messed up, but check this next story out:
“There was this woman I worked with. She was nice and I tried befriending her. She is into the typical black things lik rap, R&B, urban movies and books, etc. I liked all of those things as well but when I started talking about "Harry Potter", "Dragon Age", and "Game of Thrones" she proceeded to tell me, ‘Oh you’re one of those weird ones. Into that white people stuff.’ After that she barely talked to me. I haven’t had a problem dating but I tend to lean towards men who share my taste or ones who know nothing about my nerdy world and are open to trying some of it out themselves. Trying to make black friends that were women was a nightmare, though. Most of my close friends are white. Once someone calls me ‘strange’ enough times, that’s when it’s done for me and I refuse to hide any parts of my interests for anyone.”- Denise
I didn’t even think that much about cultivating friendships as a geek when I started on this piece. If you’re going to shut down from talking to someone based on the things they find entertaining, you’re kind of an ass***e. Keep in mind that a lot of urban s**t like "Empire" and half of Black Netflix is trash to begin with. I wish somebody would come and tell me that "Game of Thrones" is some weird white people s**t.
Man I just got heated…
I guess the overarching point of this (besides raising awareness of some sort) is that… Dawg, a geek could be your true match. Stop being basic (closed minded) and embrace that black geek love. We’re smart af, can hold a conversation like a muff***a, and we look at a lot of stuff in more creative ways. Don’t be a c**t and think that someone can’t make you happy because they’re entertained by something that you believe is beneath you. Embrace your differences and give it a shot. And if nothing else works for you, then ponder on this:
Black geeks are amazing in bed. If we’re open to watching s**t like “Outlaw Star”, then just imagine what else we’re watching…
Thank me later.
J2’s selection for worst movie ever is “Human Centipede”. DO NOT LOOK THAT ISH UP!!!